THE 10X LIFE YOU want in YOUR FUTURE STARTS NOW.
The decisions you make today matter for who you want to be tomorrow.
HEY, HIGH ACHIEVER
You make things happen in your life. Big things.
You have checked all the boxes that you were told would make you happy.
Education, programs and degrees
Homes, cars and vacations
Marriages and kids
Promotions and titles
And you are exhausted. The ultimate happiness you thought would be on the other side of achievement eludes you.
The thought of doing more brings tears to your eyes. You can’t keep going this way. You’re running out of fuel.
Here’s the current fuel you are running on:
Sheer willpower, muscle, hustle and force - just keep going even in the face of exhaustion, pain and overwhelm.
Self-loathing and criticism - you would never use the same cruel words used to “motivate” yourself on a loved one.
Perfectionism - if I just get it exactly right this time then it will be enough.
Your winning strategy that got you here has become an anchor. You literally can’t create a life of meaning, purpose, fulfillment and authenticity from your current high achieving strategy.
What if there was another way to create your deepest desires with more ease, fun and freedom?
There is. And it will require you to become a different version of yourself.
THIS IS A REINVENTION OF YOU.
And it doesn’t mean you have to blow up your life, quit your job or end relationships if you don’t want to.
It doesn’t mean you will have to meditate for hours a day or give up all your worldly possessions eschewing all praise and admiration.
you, 10x better
You have peaked. Yep, after age 39, studies show that mentally and physically we are on the decline.
But the striver’s curse is deep inside us. It keeps up on the treadmill of high expectations.
You have heard a small voice in you that something has to change. You can’t keep going at this pace.
“What’s it all for anyways?”
Maybe you know someone your age who has died recently. Or a parent or child has passed away.
These moments can spark a new line of questioning making you wonder if this is really the life track you want.
Or an idea starts to knock on your heart…remember when you loved to [fill in the blank]?
A second act in your life is possible. An even better one than the first, actually.
Imagine a life filled with more:
Meaningful work and contribution using your most valuable talents
Authentic connection with others - no more people pleasing and going along with the "shoulds” of society
Purpose and passion - each day is an expression of your true desires to create, serve and love
Ease
Fulfillment
WHEN LIFE CALLS YOU TO
REINVENT,
GET A COACH
Life is always life-ing. Which means things happen to us that are out of our control.
A layoff.
A divorce.
An accident.
A crisis.
A diagnosis.
A death.
It is not what happens to us, but our response to it that determines the quality of our life. There is so much benefit that can come from post-traumatic growth, but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t SUCK going through it. Work with a coach who has been there and knows the way through the muck. There is so much to be excited for on the other side, but doing it alone takes forever and feels terrible. Who has that kind of time?
And then there are the chosen reinventions. The voice inside of you that says “I want more for my life, but I don’t even know where to start.”
You have a vague glimmer of what that looks like. This vision of what’s possible just won’t leave you alone. Here’s a few ideas:
Start a business and create financial freedom to leave my job.
Hike multiple 14’ers or run a marathon or whatever feat of physical activity calls to you.
Create a succession plan for your business so you can transition to retirement gracefully and the business continues successfully.
Become a more connected, present and loving spouse, partner, father, mother or any other identity in your current relationships.
Find a fulfilling way to contribute in the workforce from full-time parenting.
Move to a new city and become someone who is available for a relationship.
The odds are against you.
Our nature is to avoid change. Even when we really, really, really want it. Cue the traditional New Year’s Eve model of change.
You really want to do [fill in the blank] and the first few weeks of January are a flurry of motivated action. This year will be different!
You stop drinking. You go to the gym every day. The alarm goes off ridiculously early.
And then about three weeks in you miss a day at the gym. Everyone is going out for happy hour and you decide to imbibe. There’s no way you are getting up at 5am the next day.
And so you say “f-it”. One missed day leads to another, to another, to another.
There’s a better way. An EASIER way to create change.
REINVENTION WITH EASE IS POSSIBLE
this was me too
I’ve always been a bit of a rebel. Not wanting to do something just because an authority figure or “society” said I should, I often took the harder way. More interesting for sure, but way harder.
And I have reinvented my life a number of times swinging from vine to vine hoping this next version of me would finally bring about long-lasting happiness.
It used to be extremely painful. Full of hustle and grind and then blowing everything up followed by a severe beating the shit out of myself fest.
At 39 1/2 I blew up my life.
I had a great life too. I had checked all the boxes I wanted.
A well-respected job that paid well with great benefits.
A loving and committed husband who is a funny, caring guy.
A brand new Subaru Outback in the garage (I live in Colorado, so that was cool for us).
A three bedroom home in a great neighborhood with most the things.
Family and friends that I generally liked.
A dog.
There was nothing overtly wrong with my life on the surface.
the call to go 10x and reinvent
Five years earlier, my father had passed away pretty suddenly (over the course of 3 months) from a stroke at age 57. This wasn’t enough to shake me into change. In fact, it was the opposite.
I got smaller. Maybe the world won’t hurt me if I hid.
I was over-working, over-eating and over-drinking to numb out and not feel. Anything.
New Year’s Eve 2014 I had an epiphany. That’s the only thing I know to call it. I was standing over the stove making the same dinner I had made for the last 10 years on NYE and I had this thought: “either get on board and accept that this is your life, or…”
Or what? I didn’t know exactly. But I did have a different vision for my life than this. Not the actual things, but in how I felt and what I experienced.
I was meant to do more. To be more.
The metaphor or taking a running leap off a cliff without knowing what was below and hoping to construct a parachute on the way down was appropriate.
I asked for a divorce that night. No fight. No build up. I woke up the next day with many of my identities shattered and the rest would sever before the year was done.
Not a wife. Not a dog owner. Not a home owner (I moved into my step-mom’s basement). Not a woman in my 30s. Not a beer drinker (I was diagnosed with a gluten sensitivity and my city was knows as the “Napa of microbreweries”). Not an employee (I was laid off in the fall).
So, it was a little chosen and little forced.
I was determined to reinvent my life into one that matched the faint vision I had on NYE. In this vision I was a woman who:
Laughed easily.
Exuded confidence and grace.
Was authentically generous.
Took care of her body and mind.
Attracted abundance.
It was so f*cking HARD. Unnecessarily so. I created an incredible amount of suffering. I know a better way.
I have done it for myself. I AM that woman I envisioned so many years ago.
Now in my third or fourth reinvention, I have created a toolkit of brain science, life coaching, and rebel-proof concepts to help you create more fulfillment, satisfaction and ease in your own life.
READY TO REINVENT
YOURSELF and go 10x?
Send me a short note below. Tell me about the next version of you - that glimpse of who you want to be.
